self-con*fi*dence /ˈˌself ˈkänfəd(ə)ns/
“A feeling of trust in one’s abilities, qualities, and judgement.”
“Of undisputed origin; genuine”
This week on the podcast, I was joined by Kayla, a.k.a KAY. Kayla and I attended University together and graduated from the same program. Presently, two years later, Kayla is joining me on my podcast to talk about the importance of self-confidence and her first single, Set It Off.
For many young women like Kayla and myself, self-confidence is essential and an everyday struggle we all face. As women, we must take the necessary steps to feel confident enough to express ourselves in the ways that please us. However, whatever we do, we must remember to remain authentic with it.
When I asked Kayla what feeling confident means to her, she said that it’s more about being secure with yourself as an individual and not allowing people’s opinions of you to sway you away from your authentic self. A lot of the time, we hear the comments, and we take them all in. It’s natural to fall into the trap of believing what other people feel about you. Self-confidence is shutting that out and knowing, NO, this is me! This is who I am, and I’m secure in that. Overall, confidence is knowing yourself, when to listen to certain people and when to filter some people out.
Knowing who you are and where your place is in this world is vital for self-confidence.
We all know that saying, It’s easier said than done. Well, that goes for self-confidence too. We can tell people how to be confident and gain confidence, but it’s not an easy step-by-step process. Although I asked Kayla how she developed self-confidence, her answerer may or may not be the answer for you. There is no cookie-cutter method. Developing and maintaining self-confidence is subjective, and we all have to find what works for us.
What positive habits can someone develop to aid with confidence within themselves?:
- Be mindful of the content that you intake on a daily.
- Write in a journal.
- Be authentically you in all aspects of life.
- Believe in yourself.
Shifting gears, we discussed her new and FIRST single, Set It Off. The spark to write her first song was inspired by the pandemic and having the extra time to be creative and express herself in a way she never thought she would. Kayla has a love for music; however, her struggle with self-confidence was something that held her back from trying to do something outside of her comfort zone.
Ultimately, this lockdown truly helped Kayla open up and explore a side of herself that she never gave much attention to initially. She is showing us that you don’t have to box yourself into one thing. As a working girl, an actress, and now a singer, Kayla shows other women that if you genuinely love something and have a passion for it, go for it. Dabble in things because you want to, not because someone else is doing it.
Do what you want to do, wholeheartedly!
I hope you enjoyed this reading this summary and feel free to leave a comment below and let me know, what does feeling confident mean to YOU!
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